The Rational Male

I first came across Rollo's work though Elliott Hulse, and if Hulse recommends a book, it's got to be a great book, and this is more than a bloody great book, this is a transformational and groundbreaking piece of work. I was well informed on game before I read this book, however, I wasn't aware of intersocial dynamics to this extent, this information is such a gem that you need to go through it multiple times to realize how valuable it is. As a 19-year-old I feel it's an absolute pleasure to have stumbled across such information so early on, it opened my eyes to a wide range of hard truths that I see occur regularly around me that represents perfectly well what Rollo describes in the book. Once you read this book and have a look around, you realize how deprived we really are of positive masculinity as described in the book, and how 90% of men are still in the matrix, conforming to feminine idealizations and pedestalizing women to an unbelievable degree. The most disturbing fact of all is that they are totally oblivious of their blue pill conditioning, and this is exactly why it is the norm now and women are loving it while men are figuring out mindlessly how to get their ex back. I lost count to how many friends I have suggested this book, and it's fantastic to see friends becoming aware of such invaluable information, it's a chain reaction. If there's any single book you must read as a man, it has to be this book, and while you're at it just grab the other two volumes as well. PS. Many of your questions and curiosities associated with women and their nature will be answered after reading this book.

Before the sexual revolution, society and religion regulated the interactions between men and women so men could afford to be ignorant of female nature. The 60s brought sexual liberation, legalised abortion, the welfare state and universally available contraception followed by no-fault divorce and heavily female-centric custody laws. This gave women control over children birth combined with the legal hammer of child support and the safety net of the welfare state and heavily tipped the scales in their favour. Men, who had up to now been playing by the old rules, have been left confused and hurt by behaviours the seemingly irrational and often cruel choices of women that started after this power shift. The Rational Male is the first and seminal book that helps the male reader to make sense of this new dating landscape. Since its publication, there has been an explosion of 'Red Pill' authors and books on the same topic but nowhere is the information laid out more clearly or logically than in the Rational Male. The book explains female nature through the lens of the female sexual strategy of always looking to trade up (hypergamy.) When this is viewed not just as a desire, but as an imperative, we are shown how many confusing female behaviours become not only explainable, but predictable. Men have been guilty of taking a 'male-centric' approach and treating relationship problems with logic, communicating logically and expecting women to be logically consistent with their statements. For example, when a woman says that if a man does more housework she will be more willing in the bedroom, men can be fooled into thinking this is a logical trade and be puzzled by why she is still not in the mood after he has done the dishes. By using the framework in the Rational Male and observing rather than listening, men can begin to understand women and to adjust their behaviours to get what he wants from the relationship. The Rational Male is (literally) a life saving book and essential reading for any man, single, dating or married. This was the information your father never told you and the information he never had to learn. Buy this book and buy a copy for your closest male friend too.

As a man who has recently entered back into the sexual market place after a five-year hiatus, the rational male has been one of the foundation books of forearming me before stepping back into the arena. I tried the MGTOW thing after getting burned severely in my last relationship and turns out it wasn’t for me. Primarily because I both enjoy spending time with women and the potential growth that can be gained in relationships. Therefore, gaining red pill awareness to better place myself into a position that makes it less likely to get heavily burned again seems to be the best option available. It won’t guarantee it, but it stacks the odds more in my favor. And this book gives plenty of solid advice to better arm oneself at the outset. The key parts, for me personally, to take away from the book are: - to place yourself as the number one focus of your life and invest in yourself first and foremost - to only allow women as a compliment to your life, never the center of it - spend your time and energy on achieving your life objectives, and if entering a relationship maintain that same focus and drive permanently. And never allowing her to stop or change you in any way. - that soulmates are a myth, and instead, there are many ones out there, and if one relationship doesn’t work out then to just move on asap without ever looking back. - that it’s normal to catch ONEitis for one girl, and by understanding the psychology behind why this occurs makes it easier to deal with and move on from if a relationship doesn’t work out. As with everything in life, you must always take the good points and leave the bad (or the points you don’t agree with.) And in this case, although I completely agree with the psychology behind plate theory - which is knowing within oneself that you have plenty of other options if one girl doesn’t work out - having sex with multiple girls concurrently is something that doesn’t appeal to me. With that said, however, all the other advice in the book has equipped me with psychological tools I never had previously which has placed me in a stronger position now in regards to women, than before I read it. Also, The 9 Iron Rules of Tomassi included at the end of the book justify buying it alone. I refer back to these every few months or so which help keep me grounded, especially rule number one regarding frame. Thank you for your work, Rollo - it is much appreciated.

„The Rational Male“ von Rollo Tomassi ist ein absolutes Must-Have für jeden Mann, der die Dynamiken zwischen Mann und Frau in der modernen Welt besser verstehen möchte. In diesem Sachbuch liefert Tomassi tiefgehende Einblicke in zwischenmenschliche Beziehungen, die auf fundierten Studien und psychologischen Erkenntnissen beruhen. Der Autor geht analytisch und unvoreingenommen an das Thema heran und bietet dem Leser eine klare, sachliche und oft auch herausfordernde Perspektive. Das Buch ist besonders wertvoll für Männer, die sich auf dem Weg zu mehr Selbstverwirklichung und Unabhängigkeit befinden. Es hilft, die oft komplexen und subtilen Dynamiken in der Interaktion mit Frauen zu entschlüsseln und liefert konkrete, nachvollziehbare Erklärungen für das Verhalten in Beziehungen. Tomassi entlarvt viele gesellschaftliche Mythen und bietet eine alternative Sichtweise auf die Rollen von Mann und Frau. Der Schreibstil des Autors ist typisch amerikanisch. Auch wenn einige seiner Thesen provozieren mögen, ist das Buch insgesamt eine äußerst lohnenswerte Lektüre, die jedem Mann ein starkes Fundament im Verständnis menschlicher Interaktionen und der eigenen Rolle in Beziehungen bietet. Fazit: „The Rational Male“ ist nicht nur ein informatives Buch, sondern auch ein wertvoller Begleiter für Männer, die ihre eigene Sicht auf die Welt der Beziehungen erweitern und sich ein solides Fundament für die persönlichen Herausforderungen des Lebens aufbauen möchten. Uneingeschränkte Kaufempfehlung!

Read at your own risk. Outside of, perhaps, religious texts, there isn't a book more life-changing than this for men. Have you ever wondered why women claim to like "nice guys," but reject you for being one, and then date a jerk? Do you wonder why those girls in high school friend-zoned you or, despite witnessing millions of acts of 'friend-zoning,' women, universally, believe it doesn't exist? Then, complain about "players?" (men who essentially friend zone them?) Have you pondered how so many women say, "I can't find a good guy," while you and 100, lonely "good guys" follow her around? How about why women treat you completely different when you're playing in your indie-rock band than they do at your day job? Or, why women say one thing and mean another? Or, why the women you want ignore you, and the ones' you don't obsess over you? Or, why some men who approach women are well-recieved, while others are "creeps," "sexual harrassers," or worse? Does it seem like you live on a different planet and speak a different language than women? Do you feel like you constantly do everything you can to please your girlfriend/wife, listen to her requests and she still seems cold, distant and refuses intimacy? Have you been left zeroed-out or baffled as to how your ex-girlfriend/wife moved on so quickly after your break up? Do women seem capable of heartless acts? Do you ever wonder why women seem so naive to male experience? Does it seem like the world is completely stacked against men but yet you constantly hear about male entitlement, patriarchal oppression, how awful men are.. meanwhile, you and all your friends love women and just want girlfriends? Despite all of the craziness, do you adore women and want them in your life? Do you want to understand women and improve yourself to be the best man you can be so that you will have more control over your future relationships with women? This book is a lot of different things. It's full of a kick-you-in-the butt, cold, hard truths about intersexual dynamics and how relationships between men and women can be understood far better through the lens of biology, genetics and evolutionary psychology. Why do so many men, universally, fear the rejection of one woman in a World with 4 billion of them? Could it be because evolutionarily-speaking your hindbrain still functions as it did in the hunter-gatherer past, when the rejection of one woman could mean social outcasting from your tribe? If it's not, why is this a universal experience for men across the globe? Why do billions of men who never communicated, prior the internet, share the exact same experiences with women? Did the women all meet up and decide to "friend zone" guys and date jerks, or is there a common biological reason for this? The reality is, while all women are "different," in an intrinsic sense, they all share biological attraction cues, much like all men like physical characteristics, you may be naive to. Learn them. This book will teach you: The first step to understanding and doing better with women (and all areas in your life) is understanding the reality of how women are, act, think, feel and why. It is tossing out the false narrrative and belief that men and women are exactly the same biologically that is constantly pushed today. It is understanding that "equal" does not mean "the same." The downsides: If you google this book or the 'red pill' you will find lies being propogated to make it out to be sexist, mysognistic or part of some 'mens rights activist' club. All of these claims are false and you will find out, in the book, why they exist and are prevelant, in order to suppress the information inside. Women don't actually want men to know their secrets, that's why they told you to be a "nice guy." However, this book is not sexist or anti-woman at all. In reality, it is about understanding women, loving and putting yourself first so you can be the man women actually want to be with. It is not a "cheat sheet," "pick up guide," "road map," "self help" book or "dating coach manifesto." You will have to take the information inside and choose your own path. Most importantly, once you read this book, you will never be able to go back to the disolusioned person you were prior. Even if you try, you will notice the truths inside this book everywhere you go, especially in the actions of women in your life. You may also experience a period of time where you feel like you're the only person on Earth who witnessed an alien landing and you want to tell everyone about it only to find no one believes you even though you have proof and photos. The truth will become so clear to you that the people around you may seem like robots, plugged into the matrix, unable to hear you. This can be frustrating. Especially when you just want to help fellow men avoid the pitfalls of relationships that are now completely obvious to you. However, hopefully, you'll eventually let that go and use the information to better your own life, help those who will listen, and build on your own success with intersexual dynamics, with or without them. Lastly, the author, Rollo, was originally (and still is) a blogger. This book is a collection of essays and, thus, doesn't follow a very linear structure. There is some lingo and acronyms, used in the online community, you may need to brush up on, like "AFC" = Average frustrated chump. I think a future re-release of this book with a term-glossary would do wonders in helping turn more people onto the information. Don't be afraid. Change your life, gentleman.

I cannot recommend "The Rational Male" series of books highly enough to Men, particularly young Men. In a time of crisis a close friend gave me this book and it explained in excruciating detail the story of my life as a "Blue Pilled" male. Following the painful ending of my most recent relationship, and with a string of prior failed relationships. The Rational Male finally explained to me in language I could understand, how, and why this had been the case up to that point. Understanding female nature and the lies told to me by our culture properly has completely changed my life. "The rational Male" series, and the "Red Pill Awareness" I have gained from it has taught me to not hate women for what they can never be to me, but rather appreciate them for what they are. Some of that is not flattering to my old Blue Pill ideals. It is very much obscured in the culture and in the ever present media. Read the book and understand what you as a man should be to a woman, instead of the lie sold to you since childhood. Your life and your relationships with women will be far better for it. Thank you Rollo Tomassi.

The Rational Male is an insightful and a must read book about the intersexual dynamics in a deeper sense. Particularly in today's confusing genders roles, it's a eye opening study about inter and intra genders prospects.

One of the most moving books that I have ever read. I insist all men who haven't read it yet to read it with an open mind. Men gotta reclaim their due place in society before it's too late.